Ah, the inevitable question that will plague your mind once the decision to actually jump in with two feet has struck. Is there a better time of year than others? As it turns out, Christmas is considered one of four big proposal days, along with Valentine’s Day, Thanksgiving and New Years. Thirtynine percent of proposals occurred between November and February among 20,000 newlyweds surveyed by the popular wedding website TheKnot.com. Of those, 16 percent got engaged in December,more than any other month, according to TheKnot editor Anja Winikka.
One can see why, given many of these holidays are considered the most “wonderful” (Christmas), “romantic” (valentine’s day), “family oriented” (Thanksgiving) and “celebratory” (New Years) time of the year and all. It would appear another reason for the popularity of tieing a proposal to a specific holiday is knowing you’ll to be around family and surrounded by all the people you would want to see and share your exciting news with. All valid arguments, but I’m sorry to say, when stacking the pros and cons, the cons vastly outweighs any reason to follow the lead of other guys. Just because a lot of men do this, doesn’t meant it’s right. After all, if all the men jumped off a bridge while proposing, would you do it too? I kid, but as you hopefully realize by now, most guys don’t really know what they’re doing and their unhappy girlfriends are a testament to this fact. Trust me, I only want to spare you as much pain as possible. Although I wish you and your wifetobe a long and happy life together, like ever after if at all possible, I want to protect you from the consequences that could occur should, worst case scenario, you don’t work out. I hope my advice will never have to apply for you, but it’s better to be safe than sorry, right?
Here’s the thing with proposing on a holiday like Christmas, Valentine’s Days, or even the Fourth of July, for that matter. As sweet as the sentiment is, heaven forbid you and your sweetie decide to part ways three, five, seven or ten years down the line. Should that happen, that day and what it represents, will be tainted in you and your girlfriend’s mind forever. You and your ex will have a lifetime of misery when that particular holiday rolls along, and it will come like clockwork every single year to break your heart all over again. You won’t be able to stop yourself from recalling that fateful day when you proposed, while everyone else around you is in the throes of celebration and happiness. If the proposal had been on any other day, then the probability of remembering the date and getting all torn up about it, is slim to none. Zilch, really. I don’t say all of that to say go into your marriage thinking it might fail. I just want you Another reason popping the question on a holiday sucks as an engagement day is mostly because so many people get engaged on the same days and an engagement should be a special day in and of itself, not shared with many other “special days” or a holiday. You see, there are guys who propose on a holiday, like Christmas, and the proposal “story” consists of him giving the “gift” of a ring to his fiance.Everyone knows that if you’re born around a gift giving holiday, people will try to screw you over with one gift instead of two.
Besides being pretty cheap and unimaginative, everyone else she knows will have received a gift. Putting a ring under a Christmas tree does not constitute as “planning” a proposal, it’s called giving a Christmas gift at the expense of a separate Christmas gift. My advice is to elect a date that isn’t tied to anything else, and make it your special day. For example, a random weekend in the Spring, when the weather is projected to be beautiful. Try to avoid proposing on a vacation to your favorite place in the world that you visit every year. Much like proposing on a holiday, if you propose in New York City and your relationship never takes a wrong turn, every time either of you visit or are reminded of the city through advertisements or movies you will remember the proposal by association, awakening those warm fuzzy feelings.
However, if things don’t work out, many things can go wrong on a
holiday. In this environment you will not be able to plan ahead and
scout out the perfect location. Often places are not how you
imagined them and often you cannot get access to when you had
planned in your head, that said if you are diligent and do your
homework you should be able to pull it off.